Birthday57Yet another birthday.  My 57th (celebrated on the 24th)!

Do I feel age 57?  Well – what is age 57 even supposed to feel like? Is there any way that a person’s age is supposed to feel?  Where’s the hard and fast rule on that?  Well, irrespective of what that is supposed to be, I know I FEEL GREAT!!!!

I spent the day with my daughter and grand-daughters as they treated and chaperoned me on a tour to the CNN Center in Atlanta, Georgia.  They made excellent chaperones and what an information-filled tour it was.  Quite interesting to see how the news is made.

Of course, later on in the evening, I hung out with girlfriends and had my first Mai Tai.  That drink was sooooo good.  One more Mai Tai please!!!  My drink of choice from now on!

I’m just so excited at this point in my life.  The 30s and 40s were okay but I’m certainly enjoying my 50s.  Hey – my name isn’t 50PLUSNLUVIT for nothing…lol.  Seriously though, it’s an enjoyable era in my life.

So yeah, another year of closer to becoming age 60 (which I’m so looking forward to) and to throw myself a lovely 60th birthday party.  You will definitely be kept in the loop about it.



New Year, New Hair


After fighting with my hair year in and year out, I’ve decided to make the plunge and go right back to wearing my hair in its natural form.  I’m finding that as I age, I’m urged to embrace a simple motto: Anything that causes me too much angst or stress, has to go!

The managing of my hair is one of those items on the has-to-go list.  I’m blessed with very thick and strong hair, just like my mother’s (my daughter and first granddaughter are the happy recipients of it too).  I’ve always felt like my hair required more than the normal care because of its thickness, but I’m learning that there is no “normal” care; there’s just me, my hair, and my choice to care for it, just as I cared for my children and grandchildren—and they are as “abnormal” as they come (in fantastic ways!)

When I was as a young girl, I was the envy of many of my peers.  I wore my hair natural with a variety of styles that looked really great on me.  Somehow though, as I got older, manageability became an issue, and a serious one too.  I had to turn to hairdressers for help but then it became very difficult to find a hairdresser who could satisfactorily do my hair.  When I finally found one, some life circumstance of theirs would pop up and they would either move or go out of business.  I would then try to do my hair myself in-between stylists, but that never worked out too well.  I kept it chemically straightened so it would be easier for me to handle but even with a perm, it would never look as great as when it was done by a stylist.

I’ve cut it really short, I’ve grown it out completely, I’ve worn braids, weaves, wigs … you name it, I’ve done it.  I’m now at a point where it has become too expensive to have it done chemically but most importantly, I’m at the point where I no longer desire to have chemicals on my scalp anymore.

As a middle-aged woman, I’ve started loving and appreciating myself a whole lot more than I used to.  I’m much more active (I work out regularly and joined a performance group), I eat better (less meat, more vegetables and fruits), I sleep more (I go to bed earlier), I’ve eliminated several stressful situations, (that includes working a nine-to-five job which I’ve done for over three decades), so the urge to appreciate and love my natural hair was the next best thing to do.

Are you going through that transition stage?  If you are, or have gone through it in the past, tips and resources are welcome here!



(One of my many chops back in the day)

Age is just a number

I welcome getting older.  Middle-age is a fun period.  I’m wiser and more mature, thanks to all the experiences I have had.  I feel fitter due to the fact that I’m now much more active than I was before.  I’ll even dare say that I look better than I did when I was younger!  I dress more stylish and confident than I did before too.  I often wondered, how come no one ever said anything to me about the way I dressed back then?  I wore long dreary skirts a lot, big blouses, wouldn’t dare wearing a belt around my waist, wore little or no makeup (not that you have to have gobs of makeup on); and even my general activities and social life at the time reflected that!


You may laugh at this but when I turned 30, I slipped into a serious funk…really depressed.  My thought process was…oh my gosh, the next “ty” will be forty and remembering what forty looked like on my mom — I wasn’t ready for any of that!!

That mindset went on for the next decade until I woke up out of the funk at age 40.  I just had a totally different outlook after working on myself.  I started doing different things with my hair, wearing more accessories, got more into wearing makeup, perfumes, became more outgoing and made new friends.

Then when I turned the big 50 — I threw myself an all-white birthday party which turned out to be a ton of fun!!


I’m now finding that my new outlook on aging when I turned 40 has really changed my life.

Anyone willing to share their story about getting older and your past or current thought process on same?


Aging…And Doing So Beautifully!

jamie-lee-curtisI had the distinct pleasure of watching Oprah’s Lifeclass last night — Lesson 7: Aging Beautifully.  I felt as if I were in heaven while watching the show.  My favorite subject — Aging!  Every second of the show was filled with useful advice and information.   BeverlyJohnsonThe special guests on the show were awesome; Jamie Lee Curtis, Ali McGraw, Super model – Beverly Johnson and Cybill Shephard.  They each shared wonderful stories of their own lives and the aging process and all their stories were ones I’m pretty sure someone out there could easily relate to.I was never a woman who tried to hide her age.  I felt as if I had no reason to.  Oprah says that lying about your age is hazardous to yourself, and yes – I believe it is.  You’re denying your very existence, she says.  Why would anyone want to do that?  Seriously!  I was always ready to tell mine before the question was even finished being asked.  Today at 54 years old, I’m ready to tell it at an even faster rate.

Can you tell that I’m loving the aging process?  Well, I really am.  I’m much wiser from my life experiences, I’m a happier person than I was years ago, I’m still as vibrant and energetic as I was as a younger woman, all with a brighter and more optimistic outlook on life.  Like Oprah says, aging is a blessing, and is easier once you’ve embraced the wisdom that can only come with getting older.