I just returned from the funeral of a relative in Florida and while I sat there during the funeral service, reality set in. You might ask how come it's just now setting in so let me correct myself by saying...reality set further in.
As we continue to age, we middle-agers are now experiencing the reality of our parents and other older relatives becoming sick or disabled and the entire process that comes along with that, until the day they pass. Then there's the preparation for the viewing, the funeral and the repast.
When I was a young girl, a funeral was an entirely sad occasion. Today it's more of a celebration of the life of the deceased. People are now beginning to say that their loved one would have wanted a celebration...not an entire two days of constant mourning and sadness.
Families go all out at these celebrations these days. Good food, music,a meet-and-greet for those who haven't seen each other for ages (yes--sometimes several years!)...an unplanned family reunion for sure.
That is what this one I attended turned out to be and it was great! We ended up spending the entire day together for a funeral that started at 10:00am. E-mail addresses and phone numbers were exchanged. iPhones and iPads were pulled out to show pictures to bring each other up to date. Singing, dancing, picture-taking, reminiscing on the life of the deceased...just a wonderful celebration overall.
I much rather the occasion being called a "celebration" and certainly not a "funeral" because after all, everyone was gathered to celebrate the life of the deceased...not the passing.
I have caught island fever! Just returned from a trip to my homeland (Jamaica) and am already planning the next one!
How I stayed away so long, I don’t understand. My visits have been far and few over the years and I’m now wondering how come.
Jamaica is such a beautiful island. The fresh air. The beach. The food. The people. The … everything! I had such a wonderful 7 days and was almost upset when it was time to go. The trip was my best experience yet, as I visited places I have never been to before. Yes – even though it’s the place of my birth, there are places I have never been. That’s about to change for sure.
I’m even seeing where my eating habits would be exactly the way I want it to be, as there’s a huge variety of fruits and veges there. Freshly grown produce by local farmers are in abundance. For meat eaters, grass-feed cows are everywhere. Freshly caught fish from the fishermen that swim right in as you relax right there on the beach is one of the most heavenly experiences. The fish gets cooked while you wait with music playing in the background right along with a lovely breeze that is always blowing.
You can’t put a price on this wonderful experience; you simply cannot. I want to have this experience more often so I will be visiting more often.
We drove to Clarkesvill, TN again this weekend - just a one-day trip this time - and on the way back, listened to "The Slight Edge" audio book by Jeff Olson. What a lesson! Now, due to inclement weather, a 4-hour trip took us 7 hours...yes, 7 hours but you know, I didn't mind at all!!
This is an audio book that I have listened to before but somehow, this time, I heard things I didn't those times before. Of particular interest was the portion on Harnessing the Power of habit. We certainly do many things by just sheer habit and if we could just adopt good ones...really good ones...we'd surprise ourselves.
Another subject - Harnessing the power of celebration! My goodness. I sat like a sponge, sopping it all up. Forget about Harnessing the power of reflection!
My friends, if you have never listened to this audio book, I invite you to go ahead. I'm not done listening yet. I've put it aside for the next couple days due to upcoming mid-term exams. By Thursday, I'll be back at it.
So, move over...to the slight edge!!