Why are we so hard on ourselves? Have you ever paid attention to the things you say to yourself sometimes?
–You may look at a picture of yourself and it may not be one of your favorites and you say something negative about it.
–You may have made a mistake with something and you quickly call yourself an idiot or something similar to that.
–You missed out on something you should have followed upon and a ton of negative words about how dumb you are comes flying out.
–I’m too fat.
–I’m too dark-skinned.
–I don’t like my hair.
…and these are just a few of the instances of how we become our own worst critic.
Now, if someone were to treat us in a similar manner, I bet it wouldn’t be well received. Am I correct? You KNOW I am! Then why do it?
Let’s begin to get seriously positive in the way we treat ourselves by doing the following:
–Don’t criticize photos of yourself. Just observe the person in the photo. No judgments.
–Don’t ever call yourself stupid after you’ve messed up on something.
–Don’t complain about any part of your body–be it your face, stomach, legs, arms, hair…no part on your body!
–Don’t blame yourself for someone else’s actions, even if it’s your own child.
–Refuse to go into a depressive state because you lost your job. Know that when one door closes, another one opens (just listen to Bob Marley). This is an opportunity to let yourself feel hurt and angry, and then to move on to explore your brand new life options!
–Don’t blame yourself because someone treated you wrong; instead, consider that it may be their loss.
–Don’t blame yourself if a loved one walked out on you. It means they were not meant for you. Instead, grieve, but don’t let it consume you. Make it your priority to remember that you can move on and say…NEXT!!
–Don’t dress to suit anyone but yourself. Be comfortable in your own skin. Experiment with new colors this fall! Post the pictures on your social media accounts and celebrate yourself!
As you begin to be positive and comfortable with your own self and not depend on the thoughts and opinion of others, you find that you exude more confidence and that it will even show that you’re doing just that.
In my younger years, I was guilty of being my worst critic because I cared so much about what people thought. Now as a middle-aged woman, I’m a work in progress and I’m definitely not as hard on myself as I used to be.
Go ahead and work on yourself if you need to. You know the saying…better late than never.