Love is more vibrant and becomes truly about companionship.” ~Candice Bergen, Emmy-winning actress, 68.
This statement by Candice from an article in the April/May 2015 Edition of the AARP Magazine about later-in-life love, rings very true. As we age, relationships are truly more about companionship. Almost everyone who is a 50-pluser that I have discussed this with, shares this same view.
Having probably gone through many different experiences in relationships, true companionship becomes very important as we age. Someone to have deep, meaningful conversations with, share our life experiences with, travel with, dine with, shop with, work-out with, dance and listen to good music with, talk about our children and grand-children with, discuss health concerns with—all these wonderful things that are so share-worthy.
In our younger years, we were probably busy having our various experiences and were just simply going about the daily business of living our lives. But then one day we woke up, find we are now 50 years old and suddenly realize that this is now a completely different time in our lives. Many of us might have gone through a separation or a divorce due to either the death of a spouse/significant other or, what I find is common among many of us, simply might have just grown apart from our spouse/significant other. Things might have changed over the years and especially if you were married to someone who was a high school sweetheart or someone you grew up with, as we got older the various changes start happening. The kids might have also now grown up and may have moved out of the house or gone off to college and we now find ourselves as empty-nesters. Becoming a single empty-nester can be scary and so along with that usually comes the concern of not having good companionship which now becomes cause for major concern.
As a result, when next we go looking for love, we are this time looking mostly for someone who can provide true and solid companionship. It is super important at this age and stage and many 50-plusers are looking for just that today.
You can call me crazy if you want to, but I believe good companionship can even lengthen our life-span and that the lack of it can probably shorten your life-span! It’s therapeutic and essential, if you ask me.