Are you spending time wallowing in any aspect of that “PBD Zone”?
It’s okay—you can tell me.
Better yet, just say Yes or No to these questions:
Do you tend to see the worst in every situation?
Are you forever the pessimist?
Is “never” your favorite word?
Are you constantly bored?
Complaining that there’s nothing to do, nothing to watch on TV, have no place exciting to go?
Don’t have friends or acquaintances?
Are you disillusioned?
Life didn’t go the way you wanted it to go?
Didn’t land that dream job?
Didn’t marry the ideal mate?
Didn’t drive the dream car or bought the dream home?
If you answered “yes” to any of the questions, you’re not alone! I understand how life can sometimes cause us to question the existence of the famed “Silver Lining”, but I do have one straight-no-chaser statement for you to consider”
If you’re hanging out in the PBD Zone, you are wasting your life away—quite literally!
I’m a firm believer in the saying “life is what you make it.” You are the sole determining factor of your own life’s path, and though you can’t necessarily change what roadblocks come up as you walk your path, you CAN CHANGE what you do when they appear.
If you’re always expecting the worst, then the worst will make itself available to you. Consider your formal invitation for drama and negative outcomes. If on the other hand, you look at things rationally, understanding full well that life isn’t always rainbows and pixie dust—you can see that things have just as much of an opportunity to go wonderfully well as they do to go horribly wrong.
Think about it, won’t you? Most things you desire, particularly your basic needs, aren’t more likely to unobtainable. You start out with at least a 50/50 change, and that percentage changes based on your outlook on life. Why? Because your outlook affects the energy you put into your daily actions, and your daily actions are steered by what you give your attention to.
Focused on negative people, thoughts, and outcomes? Voila! Ask and ye shall receive.
Focused on your emotional wellness, happy thoughts, and positive energy? You will attract that far more often that the opposite.
Now you know I’m psychologist, or any other trained professional in this field, but I am a woman who has survived an incredible amount of adversity, and had plenty of opportunities to set up shop in the PBD Zone. It’s with my own life experiences in mind that I can confidently tell you that …
If you change your outlook on life, you will definitely change the way you feel.
Do you want to transition out of the PBD Zone?
Here’s what I do:
The moment anything PBD-esque approaches my mind, I get right into a positive mode in an effort to dismiss these feelings from my psyche. I remind myself of my reasons to embrace joy, and I refuse to allow joy’s opposite to linger around for any length of time. Why should I?
This refusal is something I mastered as I got older, which is yet another great thing about aging! You become wiser as you get older. I spent so many years of my younger life worrying about trivial things and at times disillusioned, simply because things weren’t going the way I would have wanted them to. Now, I’m wise enough to realize that JOY IS ALWAYS AN OPTION!
Let me know if that strategy works for you, okay?
Now go ahead—you have my permission to embrace JOYand ditch the PBD life for good!