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Chatanooga TNUncertainty can sometimes be a good thing, giving room to open up a whole new world.  This picture of me is an excellent example of how an unplanned trip to Chattanooga, TN turned out to be one of my best one-day trips ever.  A truly exciting trip it was!

This past year went by with quite a bit of uncertainty with many things, the results of which proved to be quite rewarding.  In prior years, my life was just one big having-my-ducks-all-in-a-row circle for pretty much everything I did.

Quote from Dr. Chopra About Uncertainty

Deepak Chopra, MD, founder of the Chopra Center for Well Being once said: "I embrace the wisdom of uncertainty, because if everything is certain, where is the creativity?'

After reading that quote in the May 2015 issue of Oprah Magazine, it opened up a whole new world for me. Such truth! Creativity is a wonderful thing. It means ingenuity. Inventiveness. Resourcefulness. Vision. Innovation. Originality. Inspiration!!

Living your life in a way that everything you do or want to do must be certain, planned or scheduled can be crippling. A really cool friend helped me realize this, as throughout my younger life, that was my normal way of living.

As I age and have now become this 50-plus woman who is a bit more wiser, I leave room for creativity by working very hard to let go of being certain, scheduling or planning every single move I make.  It's actually working well and it feels great! It has opened up my world!  So many new things have now come to mind. Things I can now do, places I can now go, people I can now see, things I can make, instruments I can and have always wanted to learn to play, activities I can participate in -- my cup runneth over!  Lol...

Have I been my own drill sergeant?  It looks that way, doesn't it?  It's just that I've always loved having almost every aspect of my life carefully planned and scheduled.  So much that I was often teased about it by my close friend.  My profession in the legal field over the years is partially to be blamed. Lol!!  Mind you, there will still be things that do need to be planned, organized and/or scheduled.  I'm actually talking about no longer doing so in every single aspect of my life.  Enough already!

It is now time for creativity!  Yes - the time has come.  Now that I'm approaching my 60s, this is a time when I want to be doing new things and in particular, things I've always wanted to use my creativeness and resourcefulness to accomplish.

Dr. Chopra was right and his quote was timely. I most certainly embrace the wisdom of uncertainty.

What are your thoughts on his quote?  Have you been doing that in your life?  Share your thoughts with me.

It's really sad, but I have found that once you've hit 50-plus, you begin to hear more than ever, of acquaintances, friends or family members who have become very ill or who have passed.  I agree that the cycle of life must continue and it's for this reason that at this time, you begin to hear much of this sad news.

I'm finding that several middle-aged people have become seriously ill and have passed away from what seems to be age-related illnesses.  That is why it is of utmost importance for us to start taking care of our bodies at an early age.  Even if you have to begin in your 40s, 50s or 60s--go right ahead with eating right, exercising, minimizing stress--any activity that can lengthen your life-span.

With regards to stress, I am now learning of yet another middle-aged person I know who is now suffering from stage 4 cancer, has been transferred to Hospice Care and have been given a few months to live.  I also know that she had been having quite a bit of stress in her life lately.  I'm positive that this is the main contributor to her illness right now.

I lost a friend just under 6 months ago to the very same thing--a stressful marriage, which led to stage 4 cancer and to her ultimate and quick demise.  These are not the only 2 people I know of either.

I can't emphasize enough that we MUST choose ourselves in every situation.  We cannot let life issues and circumstances break our bodies down, leading to our own demise.  I know that we can sometimes be genetically predisposed to certain illnesses, but there is no hard and fast rule that it will in fact happen to us.  If we take charge of our lives, it may very well skip us.  If your job or business is stressful - change it; if your relationship with your loved one is stressful - get help or get out; if you are inactive or lead a mostly sedentary lifestyle - get on your feet now and start moving.  We MUST save our own lives.  I'm seeing too much of this happening lately.

My mother is going on 93 years old and has no illnesses whatsoever.  She has always been active--walked to just about anywhere she could, never let anyone or anything cause her stress - she simply got rid of whatever the situation was, and mostly ate a plant-based diet or meats from animals she or someone she knew raised.  See what I mean?  That right there is your recipe for longevity.  Hello!!!!

Middle-agers, 50, 60 and 70-plusers let's begin to save our own lives!!!

Birthday57Yet another birthday.  My 57th (celebrated on the 24th)!

Do I feel age 57?  Well - what is age 57 even supposed to feel like? Is there any way that a person's age is supposed to feel?  Where's the hard and fast rule on that?  Well, irrespective of what that is supposed to be, I know I FEEL GREAT!!!!

I spent the day with my daughter and grand-daughters as they treated and chaperoned me on a tour to the CNN Center in Atlanta, Georgia.  They made excellent chaperones and what an information-filled tour it was.  Quite interesting to see how the news is made.

Of course, later on in the evening, I hung out with girlfriends and had my first Mai Tai.  That drink was sooooo good.  One more Mai Tai please!!!  My drink of choice from now on!

I'm just so excited at this point in my life.  The 30s and 40s were okay but I'm certainly enjoying my 50s.  Hey - my name isn't 50PLUSNLUVIT for nothing...lol.  Seriously though, it's an enjoyable era in my life.

So yeah, another year of closer to becoming age 60 (which I'm so looking forward to) and to throw myself a lovely 60th birthday party.  You will definitely be kept in the loop about it.

 

 

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After fighting with my hair year in and year out, I’ve decided to make the plunge and go right back to wearing my hair in its natural form.  I’m finding that as I age, I’m urged to embrace a simple motto: Anything that causes me too much angst or stress, has to go!

The managing of my hair is one of those items on the has-to-go list.  I’m blessed with very thick and strong hair, just like my mother’s (my daughter and first granddaughter are the happy recipients of it too).  I’ve always felt like my hair required more than the normal care because of its thickness, but I’m learning that there is no “normal” care; there’s just me, my hair, and my choice to care for it, just as I cared for my children and grandchildren—and they are as “abnormal” as they come (in fantastic ways!)

When I was as a young girl, I was the envy of many of my peers.  I wore my hair natural with a variety of styles that looked really great on me.  Somehow though, as I got older, manageability became an issue, and a serious one too.  I had to turn to hairdressers for help but then it became very difficult to find a hairdresser who could satisfactorily do my hair.  When I finally found one, some life circumstance of theirs would pop up and they would either move or go out of business.  I would then try to do my hair myself in-between stylists, but that never worked out too well.  I kept it chemically straightened so it would be easier for me to handle but even with a perm, it would never look as great as when it was done by a stylist.

I’ve cut it really short, I’ve grown it out completely, I’ve worn braids, weaves, wigs … you name it, I’ve done it.  I’m now at a point where it has become too expensive to have it done chemically but most importantly, I’m at the point where I no longer desire to have chemicals on my scalp anymore.

As a middle-aged woman, I’ve started loving and appreciating myself a whole lot more than I used to.  I’m much more active (I work out regularly and joined a performance group), I eat better (less meat, more vegetables and fruits), I sleep more (I go to bed earlier), I’ve eliminated several stressful situations, (that includes working a nine-to-five job which I’ve done for over three decades), so the urge to appreciate and love my natural hair was the next best thing to do.

Are you going through that transition stage?  If you are, or have gone through it in the past, tips and resources are welcome here!

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(One of my many chops back in the day)

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