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Why are we so hard on ourselves?  Have you ever paid attention to the things you say to yourself sometimes?

 --You may look at a picture of yourself and it may not be one of your favorites and you say something negative about it.

--You may have made a mistake with something and you quickly call yourself an idiot or something similar to that.

 --You missed out on something you should have followed upon and a ton of negative words about how dumb you are comes flying out.

--I'm too fat.

--I'm too dark-skinned.

--I don't like my hair.

...and these are just a few of the instances of how we become our own worst critic.

Now​, if someone were to treat us in a similar manner, I bet it wouldn't be well received.  Am I correct?  You KNOW I am!  Then why do it​?

Let's begin to get seriously positive in the way we treat ourselves by doing the following:

--Don't criticize photo​s of yourself. Just observe the person in the photo. No judgments.​

--Don't ever call yourself stupid after you've messed up on something.

--Don't complain about any part of your body--be it your face, stomach, legs, arms, hair...no part on your body!

--Don't blame yourself for someone else's actions, even ​if ​it's your own child.

--​Refuse to go into a depressive state because you lost your job.  Know that when one door closes, another one opens (just listen to Bob Marley). This is an opportunity to let yourself feel hurt and angry, and then to move on to explore your brand new life options!

--Don't blame yourself because someone treated you wrong; instead, ​consider that it may be their loss.

--Don't blame yourself if a loved one walked out on you.  It means they were not meant for you.  Instead, ​grieve, but don't let it consume you. Make it your priority to remember that you can move on and say...NEXT!!

--Don't dress to suit anyone but yourself.  Be comfortable in your own skin.  Experiment with new colors this fall! Post the pictures on your social media accounts and celebrate yourself!​

As you begin to be positive and comfortable with your own self and not depend on the thoughts and opinion of others, you find that you exude more confidence and that it will even show that you're doing just that.

In my younger years, I was guilty of being my worst critic because I cared so much about what people thought.  Now as a middle-aged woman, I'm a work in progress and I'm definitely not as hard on myself as I used to be.

Go ahead and work on yourself if you need to.  You know the saying...better late than never.

 

 

 

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PaaartyLast night I went to my friend Janet's 50th birthday and what a splash it was!

Janet is the baby in my girlfriend group so she is just now turning 50 and loving it.  In fact, most of the guests there had already turned 50 so it was a nice, mature atmosphere.

We rode around in a limo for an hour, just vibing, toasting, laughing and having a super wonderful girlfriends time.  The limo then took us to a lovely nearby park for pictures which we took in sex-in-the-city style!  Woo wee!!

Who says you can't party like you used to once you turn 50?  Well, whoever did is wrong...so very wrong!  The dance floor was filled all night and was never empty at any point.  No matter the genre of music that was played, we were dancing like crazy to everyone of them.

The ambiance, food, cake and drinks, the mingling that went on, the guests there, the music ...everything was really wonderful.

Parties for 50-plusers are super enjoyable so if you ever get the chance to attend one, don't ever pass it up!

Birthday57Yet another birthday.  My 57th (celebrated on the 24th)!

Do I feel age 57?  Well - what is age 57 even supposed to feel like? Is there any way that a person's age is supposed to feel?  Where's the hard and fast rule on that?  Well, irrespective of what that is supposed to be, I know I FEEL GREAT!!!!

I spent the day with my daughter and grand-daughters as they treated and chaperoned me on a tour to the CNN Center in Atlanta, Georgia.  They made excellent chaperones and what an information-filled tour it was.  Quite interesting to see how the news is made.

Of course, later on in the evening, I hung out with girlfriends and had my first Mai Tai.  That drink was sooooo good.  One more Mai Tai please!!!  My drink of choice from now on!

I'm just so excited at this point in my life.  The 30s and 40s were okay but I'm certainly enjoying my 50s.  Hey - my name isn't 50PLUSNLUVIT for nothing...lol.  Seriously though, it's an enjoyable era in my life.

So yeah, another year of closer to becoming age 60 (which I'm so looking forward to) and to throw myself a lovely 60th birthday party.  You will definitely be kept in the loop about it.

 

 

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